If you’re asking this question, it means one of two things: either you want to hook up but haven’t yet, or you’re not into the hookup scene and are feeling kind of alone. The stats on hooking up will mean different things to you, depending on why you’re asking. So here are the stats, and I’ll break down what they mean for people who do and don’t want to hook up.
As a sex researcher and educator, I talk about sex pretty often, both academically and in casual conversation. Sometimes people ask me for advice about their sex lives, which makes me feel pretty cool. I am most often approached by people who have had an unsatisfying, confusing, or distressing hookup experience, and want to know what to do next. I always wish I could have spoken to these people before they decided to hook up in the first place, because people’s decisions before and during a casual sexual relationship or experience can determine the outcome of their interactions. As a grad student in a program with a strong prevention focus, I can’t emphasize enough how much easier it is to avoid a bad hookup than to try to repair the damage once it’s done. The question is, what can you do before and during a casual sexual encounter to keep it from going sour?
I am a developmental researcher focusing on relationships and health in adolescence and young adulthood. My goal is to enable people to have healthy, fulfilling sexual relationships.